Social networking app for couples is bad news for relationships
A mobile phone app that allows couples to share ‘the little things in life together’ is arguably the worst thing that could happen to a relationship, after infidelity.
Pair, launched for iPhone, provides yet one more channel of communication to reach out to a loved one. Operating like a private Facebook site, couples can create their own timeline, where ‘cute’ video messages and photos can be posted and locations can be shared.
This is all well and good, especially for long distance relationships, but I for one am looking to reduce the number of ways I can communicate with my boyfriend, not because I have fallen out of love with him, but because I’m running out of material.
At best, the story of my life is only moderately exciting, occasionally sparkling with tales of: an eyewitness account of a fight on the bus; an emotional forecast – ‘I feel worried’; or a voyage of discovery – ‘type tilt into Google and the page goes wonky’. And let’s not forget the story of my burning ambition, after all there is that article I want to write about how great libraries are.
To make matters worse, I’m increasingly using up this feeble collection of conversational gems in texts, tweets, emails, Facebook updates, and phone calls. I’m a compulsive communicator, but I have nothing to say.
At the end of a day already littered with virtual exchanges, my boyfriend arrives in the flesh at my front door with his beard and his backpack. What should I talk about? I could tell him Hannah and Diego invited us out for a drink, but it’s too late – Facebook got there first. I now have two options. I can tell every story again but in a slightly different way, incorporating charades-style gestures to really bring it alive, or scrape the bottom of the conversational barrel. Perhaps now it is time to share what I learnt about reindeers from the Special-Brew drinking nature enthusiast I met in the park.
Imagine if I had access to an app that allowed me to record life’s trivialities on a neverending timeline exclusively for my boyfriend. I can’t see how these updates, accompanied by gormless pictures of me sitting on the bus, holding a cat, or hollow-faced under strip lighting at the office, are going to fortify my relationship.
At least there wouldn’t be so many unanswered questions if we broke up because, encased in my phone, would be a clear story of what went wrong. On reflection, perhaps that picture of me at the dentist undergoing a root canal was a mistake.
But the picture timeline feature is not all that Pair has to offer. There is also the shared to-do list, which means my man won’t forget the milk. At least we can have a brew if the conversation dries up.
As far as I know, a cup of tea has no credible competitor in the virtual world, unlike kissing and doodling. With Pair it is possible for lovers to ‘thumbkiss’ each other by touching the phone in the same place until it vibrates. You can even sketch together in real-time and play noughts and crosses. Perhaps this function could be used for the art therapy that is required when both parties realise that what is missing from their relationship is mystery.Tagged in: Apps, couples, facebook, relationships, smartphones, Social media, social networks, technology
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