I love your open and honest lifestyle. I wish I had been true to myself in the past. Good luck. Graham

Rupert? Grow up or get lost, these things happen in life, it's not like it all happened on the same day, unlike, for example, unlike the (male) minister of state who diarised having sex with a mother and daughter on the same day.

My father's ex before my mother was her older sister—is that wrong too?

Catherine? Having given up print newspapers completely these days, it's great to have the Indy columnists I miss available online properly now, ignore the outdated fools.

The world of human life is now indeed the problem, where once were guided by the judgement of Kings and the instruction of the priests of the dice of devine revelation only now the field of consciousness so contracts and the lines of the human comedy are lost in a welter of cross-purposes. Mens perspectives become flat as to comprehending only the light reflecting tangible surfaces of their exsistence. And the vista into depth closes over. So that the significant form of the human agony is lost to view. Then it is that man and his society lapses into mistakes and disaster. The little ego has usurped the judgement seat of the self.

Good blog - don't let shocked of Tunbridge Wells get you down.

Catherine, keep up the good work.

I'm feeling guilty now. I secretly really love the blog and as you can see from my earlier post, I, myself, am a long way from being witty or funny. But I did manage to get vagina and China in the same sentence, isn't that great?

My post was deleted. I merely pointed out that I didn't write the second post attributed to me secretly loving this blog (which I don't). I also pointed out that the comments Catherine's blog gets have been infinitely more thought provoking than her actual blogs itself. Which speaks volumes. I also pointed out that a bloke bragging about sexual conquests on a paper like the Indy would get held to account in exactly the same way.

That was a bit strong though. I don't expect a man to do everything for me.

Someone posted just now, something about evolution. I might not have agreed with everything he said but it got taken off. Why? Cos there wasn't anything wrong with what he said, all he said was how men need to provide for women (so they need to know it's their child and not someone else's). So he mentioned how promiscuous women get looked down upon. He should have been allowed to make that point, because now it does look like the men are being discriminated against on this blog!

Lara my lovely lady please don't stop adding to the debate. You sound feisty, grounded and intelligent in your analysis. I'd like to hear your views on a whole range of things. Just don't stop posting your comments just because you disagree with someone.

Catherine, since when does the act of dropping your knickers for every Tom, Dick (pardon the pun)and Harry who passes by equate to the invention of the internal combustion engine, or the wheel, or any oher such mankind defining moment? Honestly bookstore shelves all over the country are already groaning beneath the weight of all these trashy chik-lit, clit-lit offerings. Since men aren't too fussy when something is offered to them on a plate, it's hardly the most difficult of feats for a women to have lots of sexual partners, providing she doesn't look like the creature from the black lagoon. Thankfully most women seem to have more meaning in their lives, comcentraing on the mundane matters of education, carreres, relationships, familis, etc. Get a life !!

Nadine

It was I (under another name I think) who made the post about evolution. It was not rude or insulting - I really wouldn't waste my breath slagging off someone who does plenty of slagging off herself...

This is the ONLY blog that removes comments like this -queen catherine and her eunuchs must be getting in an awful tizz what with people actually not telling her how wonderful and talented she is and whether she'd like an expensive bottle of champage or a night in an expensive hotel room with one oif her 'fund managers'.

Clearly it hit a nerve and also used some big words that Catherine's clique thought might traumatise her and give her a headache - which would mean no column about her sexual adventures for next week so it was removed. Ho hum. The truth hurts...

yeah that is what is real, the violence not the imagination of la la land where people like CT live..... sex...sex is a violent act , birth is a violent act.....relationships can end in pain and are always hard.....so let's not pretend that we really can 'sleep around' because it always has consequences that are usually not easy to live with. Justifying an ungrounded existence that is built on easy come easy go unions means shallow hollow people living in a society that is rich and abundant but its citizens are crass and empty - that's why columns like Sleeping Around are a lie to real life! CT has her followers who like to fantasize sure.....but everyone knows it is an illusion that we can sleep around and live with it and feel good with it? Don't think so....aids crisis is mostly from sleeping around...CT is probably a virgin anyway - never believe what you read folks xxx

Lee, a question - if you really don't like this blog, why are you on it all the time? What a strange way to spend your time! haven't you got better things to do that hurl abuse? Guess not...

Hasn't Lara got it in for Catherine. Apparently, anyone who supports Catherine must be, er, Catherine whom I'm sure has got better thinks to do - unlike Lonely Lara. Cheer up Lara, I'll take you out - especially if you're boasting about how fantastic in bed you are...
But hang on! Isn't that what you've just been relentessly slagging Catherine off for. Oh dear. Even more stupid than you've already shown yourself to be..
And forget my taking you out, don't think I could stand being with someone so stupid and sanctimonious.
Lara - you are the Weakest Link. Goodbye!

oh and its called prick teasing in another language, are you a bored housewife Lara? You are giving Catherine a lot of things to write about, she should take you on as an extra writer...in Germany we have no sense of humour so i am really loving it!

Hit the nail on the head there Marcus.

Always the problem with any feminists and women generally - the y want it both ways (metaphorically Catherine and other 13 year olds, so stop tittering). They shout and scream: we want equality. Good. I agree. Let's treat women as harshly as men and stop giving them any special treatment. Then the wimmin shout: oh no (sly teary doe eyes) but we're just poor little women, so we need our special conditions, and want you to pay for us, and be more lenient on us, and never criticise us for writing dizzy boring columns which, if written by a man, would be seen as pathetic and disgusting and perverted by those very women!!!!

Catherine dear - no-one said you had to be EITHER a virgin or a whore. Men are under just as much, if not more pressure than women - to achieve of course, and get status (all darwinian) - and are demeaned, berated, insulted and mocked by women if they haven't got it. (I wonder what it is that attracts Catherine to all those city workers with their big fat... wallets eh?) You could say men have a hero V wimp pressure on them all the time - this stress why men die younger perhaps. Most women's money was earned by men (FACT - look it up). But men just don't moan about it and start an industry based on it.

There is a middle way you know... No, not between your.... Oh never mind...

Liyen - all very well, but I can assure you that your hero Catherine would look down on you as an inferior woman if you didn't put it around like she does! If, for example, you had one lover - your husband - she would think you were pathetic - it is she who looks down on anyone who is not like her! Self-obsessed dizzy bimbo that she is.

And you ignore evolution: women are programmed to be risk averse and attract a man to look after them and their offsrping; men have evolved to father children with several young and fertile women. Men and women are NOT the same and are NOT equal in evolutionary terms. And ours brains are the same as cavemen's. You can see this evolutionary subconscious in the difference between what women SAY and what women DO, the latter being an evolutionary imperative.

Goodness me. I woke up this morning feeling all was well, until I saw the rest of these posts which happened after I stopped yesterday. I can only conclude 2 things, really:

1. What we all do in our private life is our business. Except that Catherine has gone VERY public with hers! Unfortunately if you are going to write about things (especially sex for heaven's sake) on a mainstream paper, then you look like you've agreed to invite judgement on what you're doing. I thought that you actively welcomed these discussions because there's been so much controversy lately. I thought you wanted to get a reaction out of people, that's why you've been flaunting your sex life for years at us? Sometimes it can look like that. Catherine, seriously think about the intended message. It's all giving me a headache, I can't work you out at all, girl!!!

2. Ummm....I agree with Helen who said that our lives are beginning to sound too shallow. I looked up that article in the middle east section about that poor palistinian teacher being blown up and it was horrible. As women we're in danger of not acting full stop, just cos we're happy with our materialistic needs met. I know it sounds shallow but I see it all the time. We are getting to live in a bubble whereas my mum's generation did more to protest about the lack of women's rights, CND, all that stuff which girls are just ignoring these days. It's a worry that rubbish like Sex in the City is making us gibbering idiots over fashion and shoes. The reality is that most women in the world are living really horrible lives, and isn't it a shame that most women living in relative comfort here in western europe and america aren't lifting a finger to even speak out about other women's suffering?

I thought it was the point of life to CARE about others and to try and help them if they are suffering> If we call ourselves feminists whenever it's anything to do with sex, (and when it suits us), then as feminists why are we doing nothing to end injustice in the world for women everywhere?

Nadine, if you are a 'real' feminist you should believe that men and women should be treated equally, so you would be campaigning for all advantaged women have to be taken away from them (there are many in law - look at the lack of fathers' rights). Very telling than women who say they are feminists are so partisan and chaucinistic and sexist - you can't pick and chose equality, love. It's all or nothing.

You are rather imperialist sriticising other countries - perhaps they like their way of doing things? Women going out and working, dumping kids in childcare, creating the most messedup unghappy kids in europe, getting divorced, being single parents, being promiscuous and drunk and selfish is perhaps not the way other countries and cultures want to go eh? Leave them alone to do what they want in their countries. 'Liberation' seems to mean 'being a selfish pig' to many women in this country. No. Liberation has nothing to do with that. As it has nothing to do with men behaving like pigs either.

David - I do not purport to know Catherine's mind. If I wanted to do that it wouldn't take long though, would it?

Come on people - Catherine is a like a little spoilt girl seeking attention from strangers to boost her fragile ego. She is like a toddler doing a do-do in a potty and then turning round and pointing at it while squealing: 'look what me did - I did do-do!' At best she is like a younger teenager sniggering about sex: perhaps we were all like her WHEN WE WERE 13!!!!!

I recommend therapy. Or emigration...

All very true Nadine - but we live in an americanised, feminised, superficial age - far more so since more women got into positions of power. TV news programmes have dumbed down to 1) get the women viewers and 2) get the less educated viewers. Who do you think reads Heat? Men?
Women IMHO are far more self-obsessed and attention-seeking than men - despite what some women who are interested in 'bigger things', most women are not like that.

But I would say that men were just as 'oppressed' as women in the past and are now too. Social class and money are the only REAL discriminatory factors. Women have always worked and some were very privilaged. I refuse to dance to the old well-paid man-hating feminists agande-tune.

Do you think men want to work down mines or fight in wars? And would they, without the pressure of women making them feel like wimps if they didn't?

Tell you waht - sack all women from TV and newspapers and relieve them of the responsibilty of pandering to dizzy women - and we would have a media to be proud of once again (and intelliegnet women would like this more too). Perhaps we could set up a bimbo channel, full of trivial superficial reality TV slebrity shows - called 'Catherine' perhaps?

Nadine - it is people that fight wars, not just men. That is dreadful feminist moaning and lies.

Women encourage men to fight wars and also to do bad things, beat people up, mug people, directly (through encouraging men and calling them cowards and wimps) and indriectly through their very existence: it is hardwired into us through evolution that men must achieve and get status to be attractive to women and thereby breed (so women go for rich and succesful men, like monkeys go for the alpha male).

Without women, most men wouldn't bother to fight each other or commit crime!

It is perhaps people and tribal human nature that is the problem - but please don't ape those moany wimmin feminazi fantasists who, due to their sad damaged lives and insecurities, hold men responsible for all bad in the world and promote the lie that women are much nicer and better - that is utter sexism and chauvinsim, and, as most child abuse and child-killing is done by the female sex, not backed up by the facts.

By the way, I'm wondering what Catherine feels about the actions of the US, regarding all these wars? Since you are an american I wonder if you agree with what Bush did lying over weapons of mass destruction in Iraq? Has it affected you, as an american in london? Go on, tell us what you really think! I'd be interested in hearing your opinion about it....

Do all men think like this?

Do men think women are just gold diggers?

Don't plenty of rich, successful men use their money and power to get exactly what they want ie a bimbo/model/best looking girl in the room? And they treat her like another possession they 'bought'?

Do these unions usually last?

Is there absolutely no room for romance left inspite of all of this?

Are love and sex the same thing? Of course not.

People put up a lot of barriers around them in life. Some people are just...cynical they don't want to believe that folks do genuinely fall in love.

I don't know your real name, except you leave postings as 'The Truth'. Well, oneday someone might just melt that heart of yours.

And I've done absolutely no work today.

Btw, that shallow money obsessed friend of mine who only dated rich men - she moved some years back to Los Angeles. I heard that now the only men she meets are all gay. Oh the irony.

Nadine. This is the internet. This is a blog. Anyone can call them selves anything they want. LOOK - I used to be 'the truth' (and about 10 other names) - now I'm bongo bongo man! Is my personality shining through enough for you now? God you sound so american! Please don't cry and go into therapy for $100 an hour like Catherine eh?!

Come on! Love (Sexual love) is a chemical reaction that lasts 3 years (enough for a child to be walking). It involves 3 chemicals: dopamine, oxylitine (begins with oxy anyway) and another. I know this because the US government were developing a love bomb to make enemies less aggressive on the battlefield! Perhaps if americans stopped going to therapy and hugging each other and crying they could do something useful to sort out their violent sick country eh? You know, DO something - not just waddle around in the emotional diarrhoea they keep squirting around the world.

Male and female relations are utterly Darwinian: as a woman you need to believe in emotional connection - that is how evolution made you so you'd bond with your babies and stay in the cave.

Romantic love is just a fantasy, a chemical reaction and a temporary mental illness.