Sleeping Around: Crackdown on the sex trade
I'm really disappointed to see that paying for sex in the UK will soon be a criminal offence. The Labour Party and Jacqui Smith must really be getting desperate if they think that cracking down on kerb crawlers is a feminist move that will help trafficked women. In fact, we should do exactly the opposite: work toward legalising and regulating the industry.
Legalised brothels would be safer for both workers and punters, and STD testing could be mandatory. Forcing all brothels to shut will only drive the problem underground and make the world much more dangerous for female sex workers.
As Rowan Pelling wrote recently in The Telegraph, neither the English Collective of Prostitutes, nor the International Union of Sex Workers believe that Smith's way is the best way forward. They believe that we should base ourselves on New Zealand, which puts sex workers' rights and safety first. But apparently, Labour doesn't think that this is the type of tough talk that wins elections. We need real working legislation, not empty ideology.
The bottom line is, the government can't legislate against loneliness, so as long as the deal is done between two consenting adults, why should they squander precious resources trying to stop them paying for sex?

well prostitution may be the oldest profession in the world but it does not mean it is good for womem to sell their bodies for money. I can't believe that you think that it is right that we legalise prostitution because when we do that we say 'yes, it is fine for women to sell their bodies'. In the same way we cannot legalise heroin because it is a message saying to certain weak members of society that it is OK to shoot up.
Again you present a quasi liberal ideal that is a cover up for what you may really think and believe (you would no sooner prostitute yourself than a nun would) - I always put myself in the equation - would I like to sell my body for sex (and not in the glamorous Belle de Jour type of way) but in the real disgusting £10 in the back of a car on a dark street somewhere to feed my habit type of way - and the answer is NO way.
You are so shallow Catherine - is the cure to loneliness having prostitutes for sex? What about caring about people on a much deeper level and making sure people do not have to sink to that level in the first place in society by providing care and counselling services free of charge.
God, you write such tosh
Posted by: Brigitta | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 05:20 PM
Brigitta - I think you're the one who is writing tosh. I lived next door to a 'working girl' (her phrase not mine) for two years. She used to refer to her activities - soliciting in a dark dangerous back street of Leicester - as 'going to work'. She didn't like her 'job' but she did it because she had bills to pay and this form of work payed better than any of the available alternatives.
As for you remarks on heroin - do you really think that adulterated muck that makes millions for organised crime and kills more people with its impurities than its pharmacological properties is preferable to the old system whereby registered addicts were provided with clean needles and syringes and uncut heroin?
Posted by: Anthony Price | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 05:35 PM
They're selling their services, not their bodies.
Last time I checked sex-workers got to keep their bodies afterwards.
Posted by: James | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 05:45 PM
Antony Price your argument is not feasible - just because you lived next door to a poor woman who for some reason felt her only choice was to prostitute ger body to pay bills does not mean we should legalise the profession - what point are you actually making here? You haven't made one actually except to say you lived next door to a 'working girl' as if that would be her choice of profession. Most of the time these women come from very abusive backgrounds and have such low self esteem they think the only way they can earn money is to sell their body - for money and to receive love on some level - you are ignorant.
As for your remarks about heroin- of course the illegal trade is filthy and disgusting - but are you saying a government should provide the basis for a 'clean' heroin trade?
I don't like your tone, you are probably some trendy liberal yuppee who actually knows jack shxt about the world and by the way, I know about heroin because my brother died of an overdose on the evil stuff - I don't think that by the government making it legal it would have helped the matter, what would have helped would have been a good support system in society and education about how bad drugs are - sadly not available in working class areas at that time and dysfunctional children are often drawn into those evil things. The state has to stand as an example even if the world chooses to live the way they do. Heroin addiction and prostitution often go hand in hand.
As for James , what a stupid remark, try imagining your mother or your sister being a prostitute and see if you still feel so clever. Idiot.
Posted by: Brigitta | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 08:39 PM
Anthony, if your neighbour, just like everyone, has to pay her bills, why doesn't she get a decent job just like the rest of us. my husband died last year and I am trying to raise two kids. I have more bills to pay than your neighbour will ever have. I clean other people's homes, not a very glamourous or sexy job, but at least it gives me the time to be with my kids. Sure it would be easier to become a "sex worker" (god, they don't know the meaning of the word work) and earn a day's cleaning giving a "Quickie", but no I would NEVER dream of it. So give us a break with your false sympathy and give it to the girls actually forced and brutalised into the trade instead. "Not a nice job" says your neighbour - her choice. If you become a prostitute out of free choice thereby earning more money than most women could ever dream of, then bear the consequences or just shut up.
Posted by: fiona | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 08:49 PM
what I find most disturbing about prostitution is the amount of men who knowingly use women who have been trafficked and forced into the trade or who are forced into it in order to fuel a drug addiction. Do these guys have a single ounce of human empathy? Catherine, this abuse has nothing to do with lonliness and you shouldn't use such soppy language to defend it.
Posted by: fiona | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 09:09 PM
Brigitta wrote: "you are probably some trendy liberal yuppee"
Sorry to spoil your lazy steroetype. I'm actually 62 years old and the product of what used to be called 'The respectable working class'.
I have seen a great deal of life at the bottom of the pile and I know that the heroin problems that we have today are the result of a change in the law regarding heroin. Under the old Dangerous Drugs Act anyone who became addicted to heroin could obtain, needles, syringes and pharmacologically pure heroin from a GP. This meant that there was no market for illegal very dangerous impure street drugs. The illegal labs producing the 'brown sugar' (that's where the song title came from) just didn't exist until the criminal law which regards addiction as a crime instead of a medical condition made them a paying proposition.
My 'working girl' neighbour was a quiet and pleasant person who pursued her job (which she found mildly repugnant) in order to earn a living. She sold a personal service (like a hair dresser) - a willing seller doing business with willing buyers. I fail to see that it is any business of the law to intervene in a consensual transaction between adults.
Where coercion or trafficking are concerned then what is needed is the enforcement of the existing law - not new laws which will achieve nothing.
Fiona - I'm sorry about your husband (really, that's not a debating point) and I admire you for doing what you do for your kids. My mum did plenty of cleaning to help keep me when I was little - I was dressed on a bob a week from Littlewwods club book - so I know a bit about being poor. I don't know how you know that your bills are greater than my former neighbour, Becky. One of her overheads was, of course, a child minder (another of our neighbours) to look after her little boy when she was at work. And if she was earning such good money how come she lived in a tower block flat on a sink estate?
Finally, just for the record, I have never used the services of a prostitute so you can all of you remove that lazy stereotype of men as well.
Posted by: Anthony Price | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 10:48 PM
I have been trying to persuade people that legalised, monitered brothels is the best way to fight the illegal traffiking of women for some time now. I have been called "sick" for suggesting this from fellow activists and people who are willing to debate the matter usually end up agreeing with my points but say they still have to argue against it for moral or religous reasons.
The Guardian a while ago published the results of a recent survey where men arrested for visiting brothels were asked what factors would prevent them from sleeping with a prostitute. None of them stated that the knowledge of her being forced into it would deter them.
However, if the options were a lisenced brothel where risk of getting an std was dramatically reduced via health checks similar to that in the porn industry vs an illeagal one where, should they get caught, they would be charged with rape, I feel that those who trick and force women into this would find their business dramatically reduced.
Posted by: Beccy | Monday, 17 November 2008 at 10:52 PM
The state has to stand as an example even if the world chooses to live the way they do.
In some areas yes the State does have to set an example. But where people's lives are being damaged and destroyed then the State has the duty to be pragmatic in looking for a solution that will work.
The war on drugs is a complete and uteer failure - just look at how long we have been fighting it. The only people benefiting from treating addiction as a crime are the drug dealers.
Same for prostitution. If you want to protect vulnerable women, and stop human trafficking you do not do that by pushing them even further from the protection of the law. If you want to control something, legalise it with provisos that protect people. The truly moral stance is to protect people and you cannot do that by driving the unpleasentness of society under ground.
The Government's decision to cut funding to the Met's Anti Trafficking Unit is a damned disgrace and the ministers and civil servants should be ashamed.
Posted by: AT | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 05:23 AM
actually the best way to control protitution is to crack down on men using them - name and shame and also the traffickers and pimps - death penalty. We are too easy on the worst of society - and that goes for drug dealers too. If there were no men searching out the 'use of a woman's genitals for his momentary pleasure' then we wouldn't have the problem and women could find better things to do. It is easy money for some women yet there are so many women coerced into it or even kidnapped from foreign countries. How come this happens in the UK? Because people turn a blind eye and trendy liberals such as CT promote prostitution as a cure for loneliness. Geezzz, the world is a mess
Posted by: Danno | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 08:20 AM
In Scotland they have already criminalised the kerb crawlers. The result in Aberdeen is all the street prostitutes have moved from the safe tolerence zone which was in operation into the city center. They are now propositioning men as they leave clubs. It is estimated by a drug rehabilitation team that there is more prostitution in that city then there was a year ago.
In Edinburgh the number of assaults on street prostitutes has doubled.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/scotland/7734480.stm
I take issue with fiona, yes there are some men who use trafficked and coerced women, but the big majority don't. Catherine Healy from the English Sex Workser Coperative says they get more kindness and synpathy from their clients then the likes of Harriet Harmen and Jacqui Smith.
Posted by: Steve | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 09:27 AM
In China during the Cultural Reveloution prostitutes/pimps/drug pushers and the lowest ilk of society were taken away for re-education. Yes, the west shouts, how evil was China in that time! But then after the years of 're'education' came the years of China's new found strength and economic progress and a healthier society. Now, after some years of wealth and more freedom - guess what, the country is rife with prostitution, AIDS, and all kinds of social problems. Why? Why do women 'chose' this way of making money? Well if you go away from human rights issues women are using their utility for men and their pleasure. It is ultimately a world where women are not equal and women do not help eachother to progress.
Posted by: josh lau | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 10:18 AM
I am amazed at all the old clichés and stereotypes are still being thrown around as though they are fact. I am a gay male sex worker and I work with/have know hundreds of agency/indie escort girls over the ten years I have worked. I am not/nor were they on drugs or from abused back grounds. I/ they do this work either full time or part time because it pays well has flexible hours and is fun. Sometimes it is not but hey welcome to life. Given a choice of stacking shelves or working in a dull office or spending an hour or two with for the most part charming gentlemen from all types of back ground I know which one I would choose.
As for street girls not all are on drugs but granted that most are feeding a habit then it is surly societies duty to offer them protection and support not to criminalise them. Also if you force street girls to work in dangerous situations then their beatings or even deaths are on the hands of the prohibitionists and this illiberal government.
With regard to brothels they vary in standard but then when they have to operate in a criminalised environment what does one expect. Decriminalise the laws like they have in New Zealand and allow the industry to develop like any other service industry. Arguments against this are from moral perspectives not human rights perspectives. Morality is and should always be a personal choice and the activities of consenting adults is no concern of this or any government.
Pushing the industry underground and into the hands of real criminals who thrive on exploitable markets is the immoral option and shame on those people who push for the government to crate a blackmailers/exploiters market. It is amazing the industry is as free from criminality as it is considering the way we have to operate. Re trafficking it probably represents less than 1% of the industry and yes should be dealt with but to do so will mean stronger immigration control and stricter monitoring of ethnic minorities where it would appear the majority of trafficking occurs. That is going to cause lots of problems re claims of racism. Also if the government was serious about trafficking and punishing those who use the products and services of trackers then expect raids and arrests at your local super markets tomorrow considering the amount of foods and other products produced by trafficked and abused persons especially children.
D F
Posted by: D Fox | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 11:04 AM
Wow - it's like we're still in the 1920s.
Danno
Do you know who (apart from spineless government) is responsible for the shabby conditions, abuse, lack of care and illegal trafficking in the sex trade?
You are.
It is exactly your little-englander "crack down on the bad people and sod the prostitues - they "shouldn't" be doing it anyway" rhetoric that prevents the government doing what it, the police, and the prostitutes and yes, us trendy liberals, know needs doing. That is the legalisation and regulation of the sex trade.
You know for a FACT that pushing the trade underground/ criminalising it does not stop it. (a few hundred years of empirical evidence from pretty much every country in the world floating around there if you're not sure)
And yet you insist on this line of reasoning.
You are, literally, pure evil.
Posted by: matty | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 11:49 AM
The bile and vitriol directed at the journalist who wrote this piece,in some of the preceding comments is frankly shocking
It seems that the new taboo in both the UK and Ireland is to question the reasoning behind such legislation. In truth this proposal has very little to do with the welfare of the women and men in the sex trade and more to do with political aspirations. The very unholy alliance of the religious right pressure groups and some feminists are behind this. For example,you only have to look at he board of the Irish pressure group,http://www.ruhama.ie/page.php?intPageID=138 to realise it's a religious pressure group, dressed up as humanitarian, Safety, protection and decrimilisation is what is needed for these vurnable people.
Posted by: Ruth O'Neil | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 01:28 PM
Dear Brigitta
It was not a stupid remark at all. Your use of language in that instance was sloppy and pejorative.
Best
James
Posted by: James | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 01:38 PM
Of course there are few sadists who get a charge from lording it over a beaten-down woman and a criminal element that is happy to supply that market. Driving prostitution deeper into the shadows -- just like the War on Drugs -- is a price support / monopoly program for criminal gangs.
Your more average male with more sex drive than social opportunities provide is just looking for a good time and enjoys himself best when the lady enjoys his company.
Posted by: rbf | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 03:52 PM
What a very weird person you are Matty, I did not know that by contributing to a blog and having a discussion makes me 'pure evil' It is now my turn to say 'wow!' It is like we are in the 16th century and Matty wants to have me hung drawn and quartered for having a different opinion than him. I always knew that under those trendy liberals there is a little tyrant waiting to get out.
I do not agree with legalising prostitution and i have explained why. I am sorry that you have ahard time with that. I suspect you like to use prostitutes.
Posted by: Danno | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 05:43 PM
Any human being forced into providing sex for money or any other reason, is in a living hell and deserves our full support.
On the other hand, having lived in Germany for the last three years where prostitution is regulated and all sex workers, are contributing members of society through tax, it is career choice for some, long or short term, or even part time. It is simply a choice, that can or not be made. In Ireland and the UK, it seems we are determined to further marginalise these individuals, further contributing to the misery of all concerned. Prostitution will not end but evolve into something even less desired by society, to think otherwise is delusional.
I suspect one or two here, are from the ban and stone them brigade. Self appointed moral guardians who belive is free speech as long as it agrees with there point of view. An argument is lost once you resort to name calling.
Posted by: Tim | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 06:25 PM
It remains that no one can force a woman/ women to be chaste, but chastity itself in all circumstance and at all times depends on their nature, you must look at all the facts, for a chaste woman will not be corrupted amid all the confusion.
Posted by: Andrew | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 07:13 PM
oh ruth stop being such a goody goody - the is no bile or vitriol directed at the journalist people feel strongly about these things and need to express their opinions and have the right to critisise too - are you her mum by any chance?
Posted by: Brigitta | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 10:14 PM
Could the unholy allinace of religious conservatives and sex-negative feminists please stop trying to control the sex lives of consenting adults. Prostitution is a line of work that can enrich the lives of many men and women who take part in it. The drug addicts who put themselves in danger by selling sex on the street have a DRUG problem and not a prostitution problem.
Posted by: Paul | Tuesday, 18 November 2008 at 10:40 PM
yes Paul, as i have said before, if you think prostitution is so enriching, then imagine your mother or sister being shagged for money? Is that enriching enough for you? It is nasty to exploit your body and nasty to exploit another's body for your own pleasure - get sex the normal way, by building up a healthy relationship with someone. 'unholy alliance' is just another way of you expresing that you feel uncomfortable deep down by exploitation but you are still going to do it anyway and pretend you are 'just being a grown up' in fact you are a user (if you do it)
Posted by: Brigitta | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 08:20 AM
Brigitta, you seem determined to rant and name call, as opposed to add anything to the debate. Happy to be called a " goody, goody " rather than spend a life viewing the world the way you do. I am not Catherine's mum, but would be proud to be. Catherine has the courage to challenge the reasoning behind this and if it is of benefit to those involved or just political or religious dogma driven. Not easy for a female journalist. I say again, the humanitarian approach is what is needed, Safety, protection and decrimilisation is what is needed for these vurnable people.
Posted by: Ruth O'Neil | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 10:25 AM
I would rather not work -- 'prostitute myself' -- to pay my bills and put a roof over my family's heads, but I feel I have little choice. Do I merit the sympathy gushing out toward women who *choose* the option of offering sex for money? Perhaps not.
Jacqui Smith claimed this morning on Radio 4 news that the cause of women being trafficked for sex is the demand from men to have sex with trafficked women. Yes, read that again: she didn't refer to demand from men for sex (with a consenting adult partner) in return for money, she actually said that men want sex with trafficked women, meaning (as I understood her) that men want to rape sex slaves! Lunacy.
Any woman genuinely coerced into having sex is being raped, and we already have laws against that which could and should be used in such a case. Any man or woman with a drug problem shouldn't have to sell sex to cope, there should be help for them.
This is not a difficult matter to resolve. Common sense seems quite sufficient. Any man or woman should be free to offer sex in return for money; no man or woman should be forced into it. There: how hard was that?
Pattern-chaser
"Who cares, wins"
Posted by: Pattern-chaser | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 10:38 AM
no Ruth , we have to stop them being prostitutes - it is not a very happy way of life for thme or their children - can't you think of something better for these vulnerable people than helping them to be able to prostitute themselves some more and making it easier for men to have sex with them? Your values are twisted. I don't admire CT, I am interested in the blog as it is a real eye opener to see how people think and it certainly clarifies a lot of things for my research. CT is a very silly woman. I have added more to the debate than anyone else - but because i do not have the 'popular view' it is considered null and void. You are not a free thinker Ruth, you are part of the do gooding public probably wrapped up in middle class comfort and feeling a bit liberal towards prostitution - it is not a nice profession and the social root cause can be changed if we are brave enough as a society to really help these people. Not by making it legal by the way - it will only make it worse for them. Oh but I have good idea - let's open a brothel next door to you, a legal one - still feeling charitable?
Posted by: Brigitta | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 06:16 PM
Brigitta, Oh I get it, your one of these people who gets to set the moral compass for all of us, decide what we can or cant do, with our lives.
Punish rather than protect, stigmatise and vilify is your mantra. Brigitta,you scream unresolved issues, all that moral indignation and bitterness will eat you up, if not already. I would prefer to live alongside a legally run brothel any day, than in the Disneyland you seem to occupy. Where further crimilisation rather than regulation, will make street prostitution go away and make it safer for sex workers, it would be laughable if it was not so serious. I am a full time nurse struggling to make ends meet, last time I checked, that was working class. No matter what I say you will shout it down, so I finish at this. Well done again CT.
Posted by: Ruth O'Neil | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 08:21 PM
As a Kiwi, it's funny watching this debate and recognizing all the arguments and counter-arguments, mirroring so exactly the chatter over here before our enlightened Labour Government decriminalised prostitution. I can assure readers the sky has not fallen in, and, in general, the majority is happy with the status quo, as proved by the fact that our new "conservative" government is pledged to leave the legislation in place.
Furthermore, enabling consenting adults to freely exchange sex for money has freed up resources and money to address the real issues: underage sex workers and any instances of forced prostitution.
I happily admit to using prostitutes very regularly at one time in my life, and found it very fulfilling at a time when I was unwilling to form committed relationships. Some may find my account of some of these encounters in my blog...interesting.
And when I eventually settled into a relationship, I discovered a whole new form of sexual liberation, one which, by the way, appears very popular amongst British immigrants in particular, swinging.
Posted by: Luc Anders | Wednesday, 19 November 2008 at 09:56 PM
Does this mean sex will be free, as seems a good idea?
Gives it more value!!
Posted by: Ken | Thursday, 20 November 2008 at 05:19 PM
Ruth I give up - you can't see the point. Punish rather than Protect you say? So your legal brothels are a form of protection and someone who would rather see a society that lifts women out of prostitution and prohibits men from using them is a punisher? You are weird. You are like a stange little fairy who lets women be used and abused and then says, well at least you have a nice house and a good salary for it to happen in. Oh look there is a terrible person who would say 'choose a better life and be protected by society from the stray dogs who pray on women'. If you are a nurse you sould see enough of society to want to change it for the better.
Look at someone like Luc, he sleeps with prostitutes, has to write a blog about it and then needs to go swinging - that is the type of person who needs sex ttherapy not prostitutes
Posted by: Brigitta | Thursday, 20 November 2008 at 07:02 PM
You know, most of these arguments arise because of the different attitudes towards sex in general.
Some here consider it sacred and worth protecting; some consider it to be a form of recreation; some consider it to be both, depending on who you are having sex with.
When this difference comes into play, there really is no debate. You cannot convince others one way or another, because your world views are affecting your judgment (and I don't mean this in a negative way.. it is what it is). All there can be at this point is discussion, and a sharing of ideas.. unless you want to change each others' views on sex.
Posted by: Karen | Friday, 21 November 2008 at 04:13 AM
I whole heartly agree with Brigitta, the increase in prostitution is as a direct result of a breakdown of morals in society. I belive this is a great first step in turning the tide of moral decline and I fully support Jacqui Smith. I only hope she goes further and introduces measures that allow the police to give on the spot fines to young women who parade around half naked in our streets at night drunk, engaging in anti social behaviour and leading teenage pregnancy.We must convince the young women at an early age of the dangers of immoral behaviour and immodesty to turn them away from a path that could lead to drugs and prostitution. More please Jacqui.
Posted by: A Clarke | Friday, 21 November 2008 at 07:54 PM
You know, you Brits(let's exclude those confused yankees) lead the western world in puritanical attitudes, along with hypocrisy(scandal after scandal in the private lives of moralising prominent people) and incarceration rates. Do you know you have 4000 kids under 14 imprisoned under the infamous and repressive ASBOs? And yet all you can do is talk about punitive action against those not conforming with how you see the world. I think on the spot fines for all church attendees would be a good start to a new, reformed society. Thank goodness my ancestors escaped your class-addled, repressive society!
Posted by: Luc | Saturday, 22 November 2008 at 01:29 AM
don't forget you come from European stock so you have the same genes; no one is repressive just because they think sleeping around with countless diffrent partners as in SWINGING and using prostitutes for your pleasure is not a very good way of living. You seem confused . I am sure there are many New Zealanders who do not live like you and I daresay you left the confines of those shores to live out your lifestyle away from people who know you.
The argument is tedious about repression - no we are not repressive as it seems you have many willing Brits who are fullfilling your sexual pleasures - the question here is what the hell are you doing? And by the way, last time i checked, New Zealand has massive social problems just like the rest of the world.
Posted by: Brigitta | Saturday, 22 November 2008 at 10:56 AM
Luc - I'm surprised you wrote that. Considering the atrocity that is Guantanamo Bay, and the plague of creationists and bible-bashers that inhabit much of middle-America I thought you'd have more sense than to lecture Europeans about ASBO's and puritanical hypocrasy.
The irony is quite astounding.
Posted by: James | Saturday, 22 November 2008 at 11:44 AM
I am in a very fortunate position personally, where I don't need to pay someone for sexual relief or company and never will, but I am very grateful for this. Even so, I would never kerb crawl not for any religious reason. I consider it demeaning and exploitive of men not women who are the exploiter here, where a woman can use her sexual power/attraction advantage over men exploiting the drive of nature that is in men to procreate to charge a man to relief this urge ! I would never give someone that power over me. This is a sexist and anti male piece of legislation, both party's should be treated equally under the law, to make the male more criminal than the female is a human rights infringement and will be chalanged in the courts.Guys, we dont have a minister for male affairs as your local MP why not ? If you don't like this use you vote, it's real power.
Posted by: Oliver | Saturday, 22 November 2008 at 01:13 PM
oh for god's sake grow up Jazzy, no one thinks that all men are evil bastards and yes of course some women are not to be admired and are very much the guilty party when it comes to sex and exploiting men for money - but the answer is not 'vaginas for sale' for men who have problems - in the same way as there might be male prostitutes for sale as well. All in all, any form of exploitation is TERRIBLE. We need to make the world a better place and that goes through every thread of life in society. It is going to take a long time to clear up the mess of humanity - way past our lifetimes - but I believe we will get there eventually. So in the meantime, we can stop using vaginas for sale, we can stop exploiting people and yes, place like Guantanamo Bay are pure EVIL- that raises a very good point - you cannot clear society of one ill by replacing it with another. 9/11 was horrific but you can't punish innocenty people in a place like Guantanamo - there has even been a 14 year old boy imprisoned there. In the same sense, you cannot clean up the ills of personal relationships by having prostitutes and exploitation of men or women as an answer. Get to the ROOT of the problems and we shall be half way there and riding ourselves of the incredible lies we use to convince ourselves that our stupid little justifcations for using people are based on LIES and following the negative side instead of the positive side in ourselves.
Posted by: Brigitta | Saturday, 22 November 2008 at 03:58 PM
Hey James, I'm a Kiwi mate ;)But if I was American, you would be dead right!
And Brigitta, I am sure you will be pleased to know that as a father of a lovely 10 week old baby girl (not bad for 57) you would totally approve of my current sex life - or lack of... ;(
But, when my wife gets back into shape... well, I will leave that to your rather fevered imagination.
Posted by: Luc Anders | Sunday, 23 November 2008 at 08:59 AM
it is so easy for men to get angry at women who give them borders Jazzy - no I'll hug my children thank you and i have never had to take 'meds; that is a very nasty comment. Is that all you can come up with as an argument - you are not very intelligent.
As for Luc, congratulations on the birth of your daughter, i am very happy for you and hope you can keep off the swinging for her sake - it is an unhealthy lifestyle and now you are a Dad try to live with self resepct and honour.
Posted by: Brigitta | Sunday, 23 November 2008 at 12:31 PM
Luc - apologies!
You can come back here in a few days time and lord it over us on the rugby result too I suspect...
Posted by: James | Monday, 24 November 2008 at 03:33 PM
Research indicates that most women who are involved in the sex industry have been sexually abused. I don't know where that leaves me in this debate, but I do know that PTSD results from abuse, and PTSD limits a human being's capacity to make decisions which are in their own best interests. It means that most women involved in prostitution and the sex industry are just as vulnerable as women who are trafficked.
Posted by: helensparkles | Monday, 01 December 2008 at 08:51 PM
What research, validated sources please...generalist piece of nonsense.
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